So, as we repeat this maladaptation over thirty years, we reach fifty, and are 'suddenly' surprised that we are falling apart.(If you find yourself 'suddenly surprised', take comfort: you CAN change the course of your life. In light of recent research data on life expectancy,you must Surviving The Final Bubble change the signals you are unwittingly sending your body and brain, and slow your rate of aging. Especially if you are a woman. If you look at the statistics you'll see that the chances of surviving infidelity in your relationship or marriage are pretty lousy. With all your emotions in turmoil, the anger, betrayal, guilt, remorse and confusion normally make it impossible to be rational so the chances of reconciliation are pretty slim. In such emotionally charged times couples are unable to think straight or consider that there could be light at the end of the tunnel. And so invariably they split up.
In fact relationship counselors will tell you that most couples who do succeed in surviving infidelity in their relationship end up stronger than they ever were before. So what do those couples do that the majority don't? Firstly they recognize that dealing with infidelity will not be easy and they're prepared to give each other time and space on their own to come to terms with their situation. They don't act on impulse and take time to decide what they truly want as individuals first. They forget all the outside influences and work out what's best for them. Then, if they both decide they would like to give their relationship another chance they make a commitment to be open with each other and to work things through together.